A person who is cheating on you may start to pick fights: “They seem to be starting arguments and making empty threats to break up,” Sanders says.

Meaningful conflict creates a bridge to bring you closer, but fighting for the sake of fighting only serves to push you apart. Perhaps he’s comparing you to someone else, which is triggering an insecurity, or he’s creating a problem out of thin air because of what’s happening behind the scenes with him. If he’s exhibiting mood swings and lashing out without reason, this could be a sign that he is dealing with some interpersonal turmoil-like an affair.

Intimacy has changed for the worse.

There was a time in your relationship when you couldn’t get enough of each other. You felt extremely wanted and attractive to your partner. The passionate making out and sex was at an all-time high. Although all relationships experience a natural ebb and flow with intimacy, this new shift ining if the changes aren’t accompanied by compassion but detachment.

For example, it could feel like having a boyfriend who seems more distant, removed, and far away-like they’re giving you the cold shoulder even though they insist nothing is wrong. (more…)